Epperstang
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My mother in law passed away on Thanksgiving Day.
Her service is tomorrow.
She was not religious, probably agnostic. Didn't believe in life after death.
I always said she had a pleasant surprise coming. When she drew her last breath, I envisioned her being embraced by her husband who has been gone 23 years and daughter who died almost two years ago. I believe Thanksgiving was joyous for her.
We've spent the past three days emptying her house.
Sorted the belongings, household items, clothing, photographs and mementos, etc.
It all seems so sad and tragic that we can tear about 85 years of living in just three days.
There isn't a lot of stuff of real monetary value, but the sentimental stuff is hard to divide. One grandkid is being a real piece of work acting as if "grandma loved me most, so I get the most!" BS! "Grandma promised me this, grandma promised me that." She has always been the manipulator and took advantage of grandma's generosity. None of what "grandma promised" is in the will, so now Karma is a B!
On the other hand a sis in law who did receive quite a bit of value in the will is generously offering a good portion of it to other family members that she realizes may appreciate or have more sentimental attachment. She's a gem!
There are drawers and boxes of many old newspaper clippings, photos etc of people that we don't know or recognize. It feels shameful to throw this stuff away when she saved it for so long. I've sorted it on a table and family coming to the open house can look through it and see if there is anyone familiar.
There are also college diplomas, professional licenses, awards, trophies, etc that no one really wants to take home, but we feel guilty getting rid of.
It's been an emotionally exhausting week.
Thanks for giving me space to ramble...
J.
Her service is tomorrow.
She was not religious, probably agnostic. Didn't believe in life after death.
I always said she had a pleasant surprise coming. When she drew her last breath, I envisioned her being embraced by her husband who has been gone 23 years and daughter who died almost two years ago. I believe Thanksgiving was joyous for her.
We've spent the past three days emptying her house.
Sorted the belongings, household items, clothing, photographs and mementos, etc.
It all seems so sad and tragic that we can tear about 85 years of living in just three days.
There isn't a lot of stuff of real monetary value, but the sentimental stuff is hard to divide. One grandkid is being a real piece of work acting as if "grandma loved me most, so I get the most!" BS! "Grandma promised me this, grandma promised me that." She has always been the manipulator and took advantage of grandma's generosity. None of what "grandma promised" is in the will, so now Karma is a B!
On the other hand a sis in law who did receive quite a bit of value in the will is generously offering a good portion of it to other family members that she realizes may appreciate or have more sentimental attachment. She's a gem!
There are drawers and boxes of many old newspaper clippings, photos etc of people that we don't know or recognize. It feels shameful to throw this stuff away when she saved it for so long. I've sorted it on a table and family coming to the open house can look through it and see if there is anyone familiar.
There are also college diplomas, professional licenses, awards, trophies, etc that no one really wants to take home, but we feel guilty getting rid of.
It's been an emotionally exhausting week.
Thanks for giving me space to ramble...
J.
