Need to vent.

[guruatbol]

Two plus years ago my daughter and her husband moved in with us for six months.

Since then we've had our issues but the good far out weighs any issues, period.

During this time they found a place to get IVF and our first grandson was born. He is so awesome and has become a very big part of our lives.

Fast forward to this evening and we got the news that even though the kids have great career paths here in southern Utah, they have what they feel is a better opportunity in San Luis Obispo, CA. Jacob will be making more money and the upward mobility is much better. To put is simply he can be running his own division within six months. The area is where I was born, my youngest daughter lives and my oldest daughter wants to return to very badly.

We have family there as does Jacob.

The part I need to vent about is the grandson Carson moving out is emotionally killing Amber and I am slipping into a bit of depression knowing I will miss him very much and have no way to console my wife.

Tears have welled up several times.

I am very happy we have been able to help but sad none the less. Part of the problem is that because of health issues with my three daughters, Carson may be our only grandchild.

Other than making lots of 8 hour drives to see him I doubt there is much else to do.

I would sell and move back to CA but the real estate market isn't quite there yet.

On the flip side I am happy for the kids. They will be able to reach for their dreams.

Sigh, thanks for listening to an old guy ramble!

Mel

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[Gigantopithecus]

My folks are kinda in the same position. They live 3 hours away(nowhere near the drive time you're looking at), and are stuck watching my grandfather, who isn't in the greatest health. Our kids are the only grandchildren and they don't get to see them very often. So, to get them some grandparents time, we meet halfway, and pass our oldest son to them for a week or two. We'll do the same when the Lil one gets older.
The worst part is my wife's folks live in town and rarely see the kids. They apparently can't be bothered in their busy schedules of watching the weather channel and working in my shop to hang out with the kids.

 

[guruatbol]

I have been looking at airfare as well. There doesn't seem to be a decent combination of flights to that area from here.

By the time we do the connections we would be able to drive it.

I pray the Lord will help me find a way to make this work for my wife!

Mel

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[opentrackerSteve]

Mel,

Count your blessings and the time you've had with your grandson. Wish your children well and pray for their continued prosperity, get an RV and visit often.

My parents got married and 'escaped' from southeastern South Dakota to Southern California in 1960. They raised 5 kids in SoCal, only seeing their parents and family every 4 or 5 years. Growing up in that environment, i didn't know any different, but I will tell you that I absolutely cherished the two weeks I'd spend back on the farm when we did visit. Those times with my grandparents and cosins, aunts and uncles are sweet memories in my mind.

Make your grandson's cherished memories like I had and enjoy every prescious moment you have with him.

Use Skype, FAceTime and other ways to virtually be there. Be happy. You have a grandson to love.

 

[B67FSTB]

+1 on what opentrackerSteve said.

 

[Mach1Mark]

I feel your pain, Mel. My folks moved our family from SoCal where ALL of both families lived to Alaska when I was eight. Why is for another thread but we reduced our visits from every weekend to every few years. I LOVED growing up in Alaska but as Ive aged Ive come to realize that it would probably benefited all involved if we had stayed nearby. We still cherished our visits but I would have been grateful to have gotten to know my grandparents as well as my cousins did. My son and his family live near us now and we are very blessed to see them often. My grand daughter LOVES her Grammy and the other grand daughter LOVES her Grandpa (me). It doesn't get any better than this for us. Now my son is considering attending a far away college to earn his MBA and I am proud he wants to excel in his career. Ive told him we love having them close but he must live his life. It will awful should they move but we are soaking up as much as we can while they are here. Stay strong and persevere, brother.

 

[JeffTepper]

Mel:

My first grandbaby is on the way but the kids live in Manhattan (New York) so there is a bit of angst about missing out on some aspects of being a grandparent. The good news is that their intent is to return to the West Coast but the timetable is not yet set. A neighbor of mine has kids in Naples, Florida and twin grandbabies that they adore. Their solution is to rent an apartment in Naples and travel regularly there for extended visits while still maintaining their home here.

That being said, as you know life is all about choices, and dealing with the consequences of those choices. In the context of California real estate, there are still some areas (perhaps a bit remote) that are good values. Since you already are living in a lightly populated area, perhaps a transition back to a more rural inland area along the Central Coast is in your future. I know you'll figure something out.

Regards, Jeff

 

[HuntingKy]

I sympathize with you. When our grandson was born, they were still trying to get the house ready (that we had bought close to us) so he lived with us several weeks and most weekends for several months. Then my son in law got a job about 6 hours away. We were devastated They had been there a little over a week when my wife called me at work on Friday saying we needed to go see our baby. As soon as I got off work we set off, checked into a hotel and got him the next morning. We kept him until we had to leave Sunday afternoon. I took this picture of my wife rocking him one last time before we had to leave, tears running down her cheeks. Luckily they made it back and now live about 1/2 mile from us and him and his little sister are with us several times a week.